๐๐ก๐จ ๐๐จ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ญ๐ฎ๐ซ๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ง๐๐๐ ๐๐ง ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐ข๐๐ฌ๐๐ ๐๐๐ซ ๐๐๐จ๐ฎ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค?
- Paul Hefner
- Feb 25
- 2 min read

Itโs easy to ask a peer or coworker for advice โ until the topic becomes political, sensitive, or risky. Some conversations can put you or others in unwanted positions.
Think about moments like:
โข A project backed by senior leadership that suddenly feelsโฆ off.
โข A well-liked high performer who needs a major realignment before they undermine the team.
โข A colleague whose behavior shifts overnight and trust evaporates.
โข A co-founder or partner maneuvering for more control, more equity, or a better financial position.
And then the real question hits: ๐๐ก๐จ ๐๐๐ง ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐๐ญ๐ฎ๐๐ฅ๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐ญ๐๐ฅ๐ค ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ข๐ฌ๐ญ๐๐ง๐ญ, ๐ฎ๐ง๐๐ข๐๐ฌ๐๐ ๐ ๐ฎ๐ข๐๐๐ง๐๐?
โ ๐๐จ๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐๐จ๐ฌ๐ฌ, ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ญ๐ง๐๐ซ, ๐จ๐ซ ๐๐. Their job is to protect the company, not your emotional or strategic clarity.
โ ๐๐จ๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ญ๐๐๐ฆ ๐จ๐ซ ๐ฉ๐๐๐ซ๐ฌ. Theyโre inside the system youโre trying to navigate โ and you donโt need to spark gossip or fear.
โ ๐๐จ๐ญ ๐๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฒ ๐จ๐ซ ๐๐ซ๐ข๐๐ง๐๐ฌ. They donโt understand the dynamics, and you shouldnโt drag them into it.
โ ๐๐ง๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ญ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฒ๐๐ฅ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ก๐จ๐ฆ๐ ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ข๐จ๐ง (๐ฆ๐ฒ ๐๐จ๐ ). Great listener, zero actionable feedback.
โ I learned that the fastest, cleanest, most reliable place to get an unbiased ear was a dedicated coach.
A great coach becomes your private sounding board โ someone trained to listen deeply, challenge your assumptions, surface blind spots, and help you see the full chessboard before you make a move.
A 2025 Stanford/Hoover Institution survey found that 58% ๐จ๐ ๐๐๐๐ฌ ๐ก๐๐ฏ๐ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ซ๐ค๐๐ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ข๐ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐๐๐ฌ๐ฌ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ ๐๐จ๐๐๐ก. That number keeps rising for a reason.
Leadership and work at times can be lonely, especially with not the right person to talk with.
Decision making at the top is even lonelier.
๐๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐จ๐งโ๐ญ ๐ง๐๐๐ ๐ฆ๐จ๐ซ๐ ๐ง๐จ๐ข๐ฌ๐ โ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ง๐๐๐ ๐๐ฅ๐๐ซ๐ข๐ญ๐ฒ.
๐๐ก๐๐ญโ๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ซ๐ข๐ ๐ก๐ญ ๐๐จ๐๐๐ก ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ.
Get an unbiased ear, reach out to me!
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